Today I wanna talk about slut shaming, it's a serious problem in real life and especially on the internet, and I think some things need to be cleared up.
What is slut shaming?
Slut shaming is the act of shaming/judging/insulting a person because of their sexual choices. This is similar to "virgin shaming" (I don't know if that's a real term) where someone is judged/shamed/insulted because of their choice to stay abstinent or not have sex as freely or often.
What's wrong with slut shaming?
Slut shaming enforces the double standard that men can be sexually active and free with their sexual choices and be called a "lad" or "legend" or "player" because of it, whereas women get called a "slut", "whore" or "easy". This also enforces the idea that women are sexual objects and just a number from a man's sexual "conquests".
Judging anyone because of any aspect of their life, their clothes, their appearance, their hobbies, their friends or partners, their job, their music taste, is always gonna be a bad thing. They don't live their life for you and what they choose to do with their body or anything else remains their decision. It doesn't affect you anyway. You would have a problem with it if someone openly judged your sexual or general choices.
What are the consequences of slut shaming?
As seen in many public cases, slut shaming can lead to low self esteem, self-harm, depression or even suicide. Slut shaming on the internet or other mediums of technology is cyber bullying and should be treated as such. In less severe cases, such as a seemingly harmless passing comment "she's a slut" is regressing feminism, women should stand together. If women stop slut shaming other women, eventually men will too.
But sex, especially casual sex, will lead to STI transmission and unwanted pregnancies!
I am definitely not condoning unsafe sex. Precautions should always be taken when engaging in sexual acts with a partner or in casual sex. As long as the sex is safe and consensual, there is nothing wrong with it. The stigma around female sexuality should be abolished, women can enjoy sex too, and they will whether you approve of it or not.
I hope this was useful or reassuring, I've seen a lot of slut shaming especially at school, and I used to agree with it before I took a step back and realised what an arsehole I was being!
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